Homeschooling is usually initiated by mothers. When Moms bring the idea to their husbands, Dads often respond, “Sure, honey, whatever you think.”
What Dads usually mean by this is, “I’m really busy bringing home the bacon. There is an entire industry out there to educate children. But, if you have time to do this and think you should, then go ahead…” We call this Dad supporting Mom’s homeschooling.
What is wrong with this? I will tell you: If Dad supports his wife’s homeschooling, Mom will eventually burn out.
What causes Moms to burn out is not the work of homeschooling, but the responsibility of making it work.
Men don’t understand that women can actually get physically ill when they feel totally responsible for how this homeschooling enterprise works out. That responsibility is simply not Mom’s to carry! Instead of Dad supporting Mom’s homeschooling, Mom should be supporting Dad’s homeschooling.
A few years ago, I was giving a homeschool seminar to a group of about 600 people. When I had finished speaking, I felt the Lord prompt me to give an alter call for healing. I was stunned! I had never even thought of giving an alter call during a homeschooling conference. “This isn’t the place for alter calls,” I thought.
But, I obeyed, telling the audience there might be a few ladies who needed healing for medical issues brought on by their particular homeschooling situation. I told them to come up front and I would pray for them. Then, I dismissed the rest.
Within moments, I was looking down at over 200 women who had come forth for healing! It was then I realized how serious this is.
What if Dad said something like this to the children, “Your Mom and I have decided to homeschool you kids. Since I work during the day, I have asked your Mom to do most of the teaching. Mom and I have discussed how we will do this. I have told Mom that she is not required to make you do what we have agreed should be done. All she has to do is tell you what the two of us have decided. She will not remind you several times and she will not raise her voice. You will make homeschooling easy for Mom. If you don’t, you and I will have a talk. And, we may even more than a talk.
Support is not the same thing as being responsible. If Dad only agrees that Mom should homeschool, what happens if things don’t work out? He can always say, “Yeah, I didn’t think it was such a good idea. But, you wanted to, so I agreed.”
However, if Dad is the homeschooling parent and Mom is his helper (meaning she may still do most of the teaching), all the weight of responsibility is lifted from her shoulders and she can simply follow through with what she and Dad have agreed needs to be done.
There is lots of flexibility in this arrangement, too. As time goes by, the kids can appeal for changes in routine and curricula and both parents can make whatever changes are necessary to make homeschooling flow more happily.
Mom is not carrying a burden. She is enjoying her time with the children and really enjoying Dad being responsible.
Dad, how about telling your wife, “Honey, instead of merely being a ‘figurehead Principal’, I am going to be the homeschooler around here. Will you help me?”
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